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HSK 7-9
bitterkǒumouthold womanxīnheart
To advise earnestly and repeatedly; to give earnest and well-meaning advice.

Literal meaning

bitter (苦) — mouth (口) — old woman (婆) — heart (心)

Origin

A classical four-character phrase describing someone who gives advice with good intentions, even if it is unpleasant to hear.

Examples

Lǎoshīkǒuxīndequàndǎoxuéshengmenyàoxué
The teacher earnestly advised the students to study hard.
kǒuxīndejiàodǎoháizizuòréndedào
Parents earnestly teach their children the principles of being a good person.

Usage & nuances

Implies sincerity and good intentions, even if the advice is difficult to accept.

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